I think it’s human nature to assume that super quiet people aren’t to be trusted…that we are better to “watch” them and stay on guard as we never really know what they’re thinking…
I myself have often felt somewhat suspicious of people who don’t ever talk, laugh at jokes or interact openly and often. Sounds stupid, but I’m willing to admit it.
Being a talker myself, I sometimes find myself thinking they must be hiding something….quietly judging those around them with unspoken words while the rest of us self-incriminate with our careless words.
Yes, I know that sounds crazy….
Loud people are so obviously obnoxious it is almost a relief knowing exactly where you stand with them!
Quiet people are surely unsure of themselves? They couldn’t possibly be happy or be thinking nice things….otherwise they’d share it, right??
Loud people, on the other hand, are fun to be around! Their jokes and laughter, wit and sarcasm can convince you that their heads are full of sunshine and lollipops…
Quiet people are miserable….no?
Loud people ooze confidence! Quiet ones are hiding, aren’t they?
As I get older, wiser and increasingly comfortable in my own skin….I realise that it is probably the other way around.
Some people are quiet for the simple reason that they’ve got nothing left to prove…
They are content and at peace with their inner world, the thoughts in their head, the all too common “demons” either heroically slayed or safely stashed away in that place known as “acceptance”. They’ve found a way of living in the world where they can just…be.
Because they’ve found this all important inner peace they no longer feel compelled to fight the outer world either. Interactions aren’t competitions. Conversations are no longer opportunities to make themselves HEARD (and liked, and accepted, and victorious!)
I do wonder if the ones who talk loudly – all the time – feel a need to announce themselves when entering a room – EVERY time – speak 4 times louder and more animated than absolutely necessary – ALL THE TIME – and basically keep you entertained with their mouths…..are actually the ones to “watch”.
They’ve got noisy heads, and they’ll gladly share it all with you if you let them
Pay attention instead to the quiet ones, they’re silent for a reason.
Their mouths are still because there heads are quiet.
Listen long enough and you just might hear what they are sharing with you…